Ian O’Byrne
Overstory Writing

Protect Your Center

Why protecting your center matters when opportunities pull you outward.

Posted
Oct 16, 2020
Last revised
Apr 4, 2026
Author
Ian O’Byrne
Read
1 min
Topics
identity · writing · resilience

I want to stay as close to the edge as I can without going over. Out on the edge you see all kinds of things you can’t see from the center.

Kurt Vonnegut, Jr.

In identifying new opportunities, there is often a chance that we’ll let this derail us and lead us astray from our true goals.

We also need to consider our center when we think about new challenges, opportunities, or problems that we encounter.

This is sometimes identified as having an internal vs external locus of control.

Be careful as you identify and test out new opportunities to connect, research, and build. Many times we’re super quick to say yes, yes, yes. Everything looks new, beautiful, and stellar. It’s not until you jump in do you realize the time suck or pit that it truly may become.

Over the last year(s) I’ve spent a lot of time working on a couple of initiatives that I thought would pan out and offer more opportunities. I have benefited from these experiences in the people and insight that I’ve gained. I did not explicitly gain in the ways in which I thought I would. It makes me wonder if I still should say yes, and jump in…but be a bit more cautious and protective of my time…or should I adopt the “Hell yes, or no” mentality.

I need to protect and maintain my center…but still remain willing and open to new opportunities.


This post isDay 29 of my #100DaysToOffload challenge. Want to get involved? Find out more at 100daystooffload.com.